Parenting the Child with Behaviors that Are Challenging
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“Joyfully Parenting”
Children With Behaviors That Are Challenging

A CLASS THAT PROMOTES  “FEELING EMPOWERED AS A FAMILY."

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Kathy McNamara, M.A., LMFT #33319
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
595 Millich Dr. Suite 102
Campbell, CA 95008
(408) 963-6694 x426
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DO YOU HAVE A CHILD WHO IS CHALLENGING OR WHO MAY HAVE:

Learning Disabilities, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Aspergers, Autism, Nonverbal Learning Disorder, Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder, Sensory Integration Disorder, Emotional/Behavioral Needs, Pervasive Developmental Disorder, Developmental Delays, Reactive Attachment Disorder? (If your child has not been diagnosed, call Kathy to see how the class could meet your needs.)


THE PURPOSE

The purpose of this class is to give support and offer an abundance of ideas to parents and those working with this population, within an interactive, fun and creative setting. There will be an increasing potential for healthy relationships by learning what is offered in class such as: effective communication skills, positive discipline tools, how to set up the environment for success and ways to nurture yourself and your children in a new way. These tools assist children, parents and those working with this population to live a happier, more productive, peaceful and functional life.


THE CLASS

This class provides you with a variety of different tools and skills for dealing constructively with your child/children who are challenging. The tools help you to decrease those often common feelings of frustration, inadequacy, fear, guilt and/or isolation that many of us may feel while raising our children. The fun, dynamic, interactive structure of the class, plus a nurturing, safe and supportive environment that is created starting with the first class, help you to increase your sense of personal worth, self-control, self-esteem and self-nurturing.


THE INSTRUCTOR

Kathy McNamara has been seeing clients in her office in Los Gatos for almost 30 years. She primarily works with couples, families, children and individuals, adapting the class skills and tools to meet the needs of families with children who are challenging. She is the creator and facilitator of this class. For over twenty-seven years, she has served close to a thousand people in a variety of settings, sharing her experience and knowledge. She continually sees the drastic changes people make, when they apply what they have learned in class.

Being a parent of a son with Special Needs, she is provided daily with a plethora of first-hand life experiences, which enhance her work professionally. She is sensitive to the unique problems, concerns and joys surrounding this specific population.

This class provides you with tools to: change your behavior so your child can change theirs and to learn to make choices that are correct for you and your family. The skills learned in class carry over into many aspects of your daily life including your: partner, entire family, support system and other relationships outside the home, including the work environment, thus helping everyone to be treated with mutual respect and dignity.


SOME OF THE CRITICAL TOPICS COVERED IN THE CLASS ARE:

PERSONAL VALUES
* Having realistic expectations- for yourself and your child.
* Self-acceptance for your strengths and weaknesses.

AVOIDING PROBLEMS
* Goals of Behavior- also known as a reaction to unmet needs.
* Making transitions smooth from one activity to the next.
* Foreshadowing by preparing the child for what is going to happen.
* Limited choices by providing 2 choices (at least) whenever possible.
* Adult using fewer words as processing information is usually difficult for our children.
* Shaping is breaking large tasks into smaller steps, so child can experience success.

COMMUNICATION SKILLS
* Active Listening - understanding the feelings and facts of what your child is saying.
* I Messages – communicating your problem, how you are feeling and why: When... I feel... because...

PROBLEM SOLVING TOOLS
* What is the problem, behaviorally?
* Who has the problem?
* Brainstorm solutions
* How to help develop responsibility in the child.

POSITIVE DISCIPLINE
* Reinforcing appropriate behavior
* Modifying inappropriate behavior
* Natural and logical consequences


COMMENTS FROM CLASS PARTICIPANTS

“BEING IN THE CLASS HAS LET ME KNOW I AM NOT ALONE AS A SPECIAL PARENT.”

“I CAME INTO THE CLASS FRUSTRATED, DEPRESSED, FRIGHTENED, LOST. I CAME OUT FEELING MORE IN CONTROL OF MYSELF.”

“IF YOU HAVE A DIFFICULT (TRYING) CHILD AND NOTHING SEEMS TO WORK AND YOU FEEL GUILTY THAT YOU ARE SOMEHOW THE  CAUSE  OF HIS BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS, THIS CLASS CAN OFFER YOU OPTIONS THAT WORK.”

“I FEEL RENEWED, REVIVED AND THINGS ARE MORE POSSIBLE INSTEAD OF IMPOSSIBLE. THANKS FOR GIVING ME BACK TO ME.”


FOR FRIENDS OF THE HANDICAPPED
BY ANN LANDERS

Blessed are you, who take the time to listen to difficult speech, for you help me to know that if I persevere,
 I can be understood.

Blessed are you, who never bid me to hurry or take my tasks from me and then do them for me,
 for I often need time rather than help.

Blessed are you who stand beside me as I enter new and untried ventures, for my failures will be
 outweighed, by the times I surprise you and myself.

Blessed are you who asked for my help, for my greatest need is to be needed.

Blessed are you who understand that it is difficult for me to put my thoughts into words.

Blessed are you who with a smile encourage me to try once more.

Blessed are you who never remind me that today I asked the same question twice.

Blessed are you who respect me and love me.

JUST AS I AM.